56. $100K+ Teenage Entrepreneur on Motivation, Goals & Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

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So you mentioned you were looking to break through with some physical.  with your physical body. Yes. Right. So that's a big part of, of revolutionary freedom in, in some of this coaching is because so much of our life stems off, stems from our physical body and the condition that it's in. So tell me about some of the struggles that you've been having with your physical body.

So I've always, you know, en enjoyed at least the idea of working.  or having big muscles on me. Right. Or size . I like how you said that. I've always enjoyed the idea of that, not necessarily the work. Well, I say that because, yeah, because a couple years ago when I was maybe a sophomore year of high school, that's when I really started to work out.

I was cons, I was consistent for maybe eight months, six months, something like that. But I was always happy. I was hyper obsessed over it and it just, it was something that I really enjoy. , you know? Yep. And whatever else happened, I could always fall back on that, you know? And then that, that ended and kind of went to working out, you know, here and there when I'd wanted to.

I'd have a couple weeks, you know, out of the whole few years that I would get consistent again, and then just fall off and I'd get lazy or I wouldn't wanna go back, couldn't find the motivation. And right now, at this point, I still am like that. I, I haven't been consistent. I've, you know, maybe gone a couple times with in the last few months, but I can't find motivation to just start and stay working out, you know, every week.

Eating the foods that I know I should be eating, which right now it's very little food. And then when I eat the food, it's pizza or chips or just junk food. Not that I don't want to eat food and to I just real quick. Yeah. To be clear, this is what you were struggling with in the summer before you had a breakthrough.

Correct. Which, which changed your reality. Yes. Which is what you are in now, the new reality. Mm-hmm. . Right. Okay. That being said, I wanna make sure that that's clear because you did have a breakthrough. Yeah. And this is coming from a guy you're talking about. I struggle with motivation to work out to eat.

Right. Didn't you have a little, uh, didn't you compete, tell, tell us a story about you competing in a body building contest. . Yeah. So that was my senior year of high school, which was a year and a half ago. Two years. Yeah. Um, but yeah, it was Mr. East Bay, you know, everybody, a few guys outta the whole school knows four guys outta the whole school, me, including me, including, you know, and I just, yeah, I just like, screw it.

Like I, I'm just gonna do this. Like, why would I not do it? It's my last year. Might as well do go for it. And at this time I was not working. At all. Mm-hmm.  N Not at all. I just, I just did it, but literally like the two weeks leading into it, I started cutting a ton. Did I forgot exactly what I did. I just, cutting.

What does that mean? Shredding off all my fat and water weight. Okay. Cutting, cutting, cutting weight. Yeah. Water, weight, like it's, so it was just muscle and bone. Mm-hmm.  as much as I could, and I enjoyed that. Know I got second place, which is the worst. . No, actually third is the worst. Not placing would be. No, come on course.

It's not the worst. Of course. Yeah. But I was, I had such high hopes for myself in that mm-hmm. . But realistically I knew I didn't work out as much as the guy that got first place. Well as much. I didn't work out and he did. So, yeah. Um, so I was disappointed in myself cause I'm like, I got. , I guess I can play us off of not working out.

Imagine what I could do if I worked out and took advantage of that, you know? Right. And then I was like, you know, I'm doing, I'm gonna go work out after this. I'm, I'm sticking tired of this. And then, nah, nothing, not a nothing after that. But that's what, you know, what's cool though is, and I, and I wanna give you some shine on this, is that you did that.

How long did you train for, how long was your camp, your training? Couple, couple weeks from what I can remember from no working out, leading up to it before that. I didn't work out for it. Oh, . Okay. That's your point. So you barely, like you gave two weeks of all in of just diet? I didn't work out. Just diet. I did.

I did track. You didn't work out at all for that? No. You were in track? Not at all. Okay. And you had your business that you were still operating, correct? Yeah. All right. Either way, that's fine. Okay. That's funny. All right, so that leads you so, so fast forward again, back to this past. Yes. And, and you're, this is where you're like, I wanna work out.

You're not feeling great in your physical body. Right? Yeah. And

you had motivation like that, was it? Yeah. Well, just a few times over the past few months. My sister, oh dang, your chest is small. Me hearing that is like, how old's your. 16. Yeah. Okay. . So it's like, and I, I take her opinion very seriously cuz I, I. I hear her and she could be sort of like a, a voice for other 16 year old girls and other teenage girls.

Yeah. Which means that's what they're seeing and they're, they're not the most gentle judges. , my sister's not gentle at all. She gives me the hard facts, , which is what I heard, and it hurts cause I knew it was true. I looked in the mirror. It's like, yeah. You know, it's just, yeah. Not much there. All right. So I know that one of the things that, that we would, that I've discussed with you, When you're, this is a very common thing.

Someone's STR because you're not struggling with motivation right now. Is this correct? Yeah. I'm just gonna dive back into that one more time. Okay. I had just a lot of instances that kind of stabbed at me over the course of a few months, and I finally got just absolutely sick and tired of how I felt and having no energy being like my body looked like it just shrunk.

So I started 75 Hard, which is a program to try and transform your physical and mental state. And that's what I'm on right now. Oh, so it's a pH it's like one of those physical challenges. Absolutely. Not . No, no. It's not supposed to be a challenge. It's supposed to be something until Andy gets on this show.

And, and, and we tease on the idea that it's a physical challenge because it's funny, right? Like we, we've seen what people will, they'll, they'll bastardize the program. Yeah. The physical part's easy. It's mental. So what, what, what is 75? Well, every, every single day for 75 days, you do two workouts a day, each 45 minutes.

One has to be outside again, on a water every day, a strict diet, which weight loss, gain muscle, staying the same, whatever that is for you. And then no cheat meals at all. No alcohol at all. Um, and one progress picture every single day, along with 10 pages of a self-improvement book. Mm, just something that can make you better a business.

Mindset, something like that. Excellent. Can I read fiction and become better at thinking about imagina? Imagine imagination. Like no imagination. Harry Potter doesn't count. Imaginative thinks No, Harry Potter doesn't. All right. So that's pretty fantastic. Yep. So you this, you're, you're doing that now? Yes. So you're doing, you're in the middle of 75 Hard.

75 days in a row with no breaks. Yeah, actually the first time I failed on day one, eating pizza roll. Second time I failed. Forgot my progress picture on day 28, Monday 14. Now starting it over again in a row. So th this is, this is instructive. There's a lot to, to break down. . Mm-hmm. . Let's go all the way back to the beginning, to the point where you have no motivation.

This is a very common thing that I've heard from people in the way it's come to me in my life, the way people have said it to me. How do you stay so motivated? That's a big question. How do you stay so motivated? How do you do this? How it's like no one stays motivated? First of all. That's the answer is that there, there's a two part answer.

How do I. , which is the question's wrong. I don't stay motivated. I do stay driven. Yes, I do stay concentrated on the goals of my life in the D destination I want to go to. I don't even stay inspired all the time, which is a better thing. Than being motivated. Motivation has to do with motion, it has to do with emotion, and usually it has to do with feeling something, right?

Yeah. You were very clear in what you said that you were battling with about six months ago, and even less that you couldn't find the motivation three months ago. Three months ago, you couldn't find the motivation. You couldn't get yourself to. , but you also said something in there that's instructive and without me getting too nitpicky about these terms and the philosophical side of motivation and inspiration in doing it.

Because the answer to all this has to do with discipline and self-control. Mm-hmm. , and those are two different things. So, and, and we'll get into that. So the way that you do it, the way that you break out of. Get unstuck. Break through the frustration. Cuz would you say that it's fair to say that you were, you were frustrated being stuck about not being able to get motivated?

Yeah. I got to the point where I would take it down on other people. Mm. Like I would come home and just be mad at everybody. Hmm. I have nothing going wrong. Mm-hmm. And I would just be irritated. Wonder why? No problems. And mad. Yep. I was going, I was going against what my drive was and I was ignoring that.

Here's the. . When your pain in your frustration build up enough to piss you off, you will make the required change.

That's what I did. Yours did? Mm-hmm. . If so, I'm, this is a blanket statement. I am absolutely saying this is an absolute deal. It's we, we wanna complicate things. Remember a guy a long time ago and he was quoting, I think, I can't think he was quoting an old CEO O from, from somewhere. He said, business is simple, but we'll just say life is simple even though it's not.

Life is simple. We complicate it when we're trying to explain away our lack of results. Does that make sense? It's a little heavy. , we complicate things when we try to justify why we aren't. Yes. Where we are. Mm-hmm. . Okay. I can, you can probably look through the previous 12 to 18 months before the last three months, so before the times in after high school, before you got your ass in gear and you went for it.

And you can find in there a handful of times, a handful of mindsets. That you used justifying and excusing why you weren't where you were while trying to preach to everybody that you're frustrated you're not there. Mm-hmm. , you have anything you wanna talk about there? Any quick examples? Yeah. One huge example is, um, you and me for example, were talking about working out and, you know, saying, Hey, the only.

That I, I could do it is 5:00 AM 6:00 AM and I start work at seven. So I'm like, oh my, okay, look, there's no way I'm getting up that early. I can't do that there. Like I, I said, and I convinced myself, I can't do that. That is too early. I'm gonna get no sleep and I'm gonna be too tired. No way. I, I hate it. I, I can't wake up early.

And, um, now I'm waking up at 4:30 AM most of the time, and I feel great. Mm. , I feel better than I did. And when I wake up, it's like, let's get to it. I'll pop my pre-workout, man. I'm, I'm good. Right on. Yeah. So what happens is, and this is what happened for you, your frustration, the lack of not being where the, the con, the state of not being where you wanted to be built up enough.

That the pain of that pushed you into changing? Yes, and it outweighs the pain right now of being uncomfortable in the things that I do. And you'd rather deal with the pain of 4:30 AM you'd rather deal with the pain of a disciplined diet, exercising self-control. Even through the holidays. Yes.

Thanksgiving, Christmas, man. This is Christmas, this is Thanksgiving. This is New Year's. I'm gonna, you gotta enjoy life too. You gotta enjoy life, don't you? You gotta live a little, just one time. It's just this, this is, this is the language of small minds of people. If they look in their, the spot where their feet are sitting right now, where their feet are standing, they might as well get comfortable with the view because they're not moving on now.

It's not all grind. You know how I feel about lifestyle. Yeah. I believe it is meant to be enjoyed. It is meant to be lived, but there's only one way to revolutionary freedom, and that is a disciplined life, mind, body, spirit that allows you the freedom. To have that pizza when it's off season. Yeah. To have that bowl of sugary ice cream, not the sugar free keto style that gets us to do some of the tough times.

But for me personally, I know that the reason I can go on a vacation with my wife or my family and have some drinks and have some fried whatever and, and have some junk food and some cheeseburgers and do it is because most of the. I discipline myself and exercise self-control to not do those things. If you only live that way, only live enjoying life in quote unquote, enjoying by eating shit and filling your body with garbage, that's what people will call that.

They'll call it enjoying life. What happens is you end up with coronary artery disease, you end up having a stroke when you're 43. You end up having. Heart attacks when before you're 50, you end up having diabetes type two in your twenties or your thirties. These things aren't gen like. That's not a genetics issue.

That's a lifestyle choice.

So that being said, that's a passionate topic because you hear a lot of excuses come in, and the reason it's passionate to me is because people will try to get into your head with their. To try to derail you off of your abundance. And most of them want what we have. Yes. What we're doing. Yes. But they just say that because they're so where they, they're just, yep.

So close off to it. Yep. That they, yeah. And th this is not about perfection because, you know, as well as I do when I'm not committed in, in training actively, yeah. I get sloppy. . Mm-hmm. . And sometimes it goes beyond the weekend, right? It goes into the end of the week. It goes right, right into Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, right back into the weekend.

Dang. It goes into 1:00 AM watching friends with my daughter and, and you know what I mean? Having it, uh, a stocked bowl of ice cream. Like, I get it. There is no perfection here. It's about getting back on the horse and doing that. Way less than you don't. Yeah. So discipline, just to be clear, discipline is doing what we should do when we don't feel like.

Which is almost all the time. Yeah. Self-control is not doing what we shouldn't do when we feel like it. Does that make sense? Hmm. Twist of my brain Watch Discipline is doing what we should do when we don't feel like it. Self-control is not doing what we shouldn't do. When we feel like doing. . Mm. Make sense?

Yes. You need both. They both have to be in place to get to some physical goals. So getting back to why you went into the training program. Your pain became great enough, you got sick and tired of being sick and tired, the old cliche, right? Mm-hmm. , and then you made the change and you did it. You failed day one.

Was it a moment of weakness that you just couldn't resist? The tor the, the, the, the Tortino's pizza roll? No way. No. What happened? So I finished all my tasks, marked off my picture for the day. Walked downstairs, you know, chest. So you won the day. I won the day.  wa everything was done except checking off.

Finished diet. No alcohol. Cheap meals. Yep. Right. And those things I typically check off right before I go to bed. Yep. That way I know I didn't eat anything or sneak anything in before. Right. So I went downstairs, I was like, oh yeah. Hey guys. Saw pizza rolls on the stove. Went boop, grabbed a couple, threw one in.

Hey mom. Oh, wow. I just swallowed a freaking beats roll. So just totally mindless. Yeah, I, I wasn't thinking about it at all. Didn't think about it at all. I swallowed it once you go eat my second one and then realized, wait a second. Look, obviously it's innocent. Mm-hmm. , does that mean you did not fail? No. It means I failed.

No, even though it was totally innocent and your intentions were all pure and you even won the rest of the day, you did all the stuff. Yeah. So why not just let yourself off the hook for that one little pizza roll? It was an accident. It's because, obviously, I wasn't ready to finish the program. I that my, I was still off course.

Well, no, it's more simple than that. You violated it. Yeah. I just, I just didn't follow the rules. You violated it. That's the bottom line. Yes. It doesn't matter why, right? Mm-hmm. , you violated it so it doesn't count no matter what. Now what did you learn from that? Because I got something that's, go ahead. How powerful my subconscious is.

Mm. How it controls almost everything. And even multiple times after that, I look at stuff and go to grab it. For example, walking in the office at the receptionist's desk, there's a bowl of candy out in the lobby. Yeah, yeah. And again, after that, maybe a couple weeks later, went by there, grabbed one, got in the office, but on unwrap it and was like, Nope.

Threw it away. Cause I realized I was about to eat. And I wasn't even thinking about it. It was just natural to grab the candy Yep. And shove it in my mouth. Yep. Tastes good. Yep. Now look, that's, that's massive, right? Because what's one of the key principles that we teach in pillar one, perception to achieve revolutionary freedom, how to break through frustration.

How one of those key things that you just, that you learned with that freaking pizza. Yeah. And even the, the receptionist bowl of candy, how easy it is. We do things that we're unaware of. Right? Yeah. There's, so there's a multitude of habits that we have that we're blind to.

The goal of the mind portion, mind, body, spirit of the mind portion of pillar one is one of the major keys to breaking through. It might be the key is to elevate the awareness. Of why we think and act the way we do. Well, you have to do that before anything else, but, but here's the trick. You have to have humility going into that.

You had the humility to say, you know what? Wow, that was a blind spot. I did not realize how my habits will just lack self-control like that. Because not eating the pizza roll is an exercise of self-control. But you didn't try to violate self-control. It was a portion of your character that lacked self-control because we all agree, even though they taste great, they're trash.

Mm-hmm. , right? Yeah. Even the way I make 'em with butter and garlic salt on top,  are delicious. Right? So,

For the person who's frustrated right now and is who's tired of, of doing something, they can't find the motivation to go work out. And this is your, your situation, but this can be applied to anything. There's a reason that you don't, not you the person listening, that you don't have the promotion at work that you want.

There's a reason you don't have the life mate that you. There's a reason you're not driving the car you want to be driving. There's a reason you're not giving to the charities that you believe in. The friends that are trying to start businesses that you can't support with time or money. There's a reason and you can talk about all the factors.

So I got this job and I got a shitty boss, and they, they're just working me and, and, and I'm in the middle. That was one of mine early 10 year, 10 plus years ago. I'm in the military. I don't have time there. It's, it's a restriction. Yeah. Yeah. It's a hurdle, it's an obstacle, it's adversity. Fight through it.

That's how you get strength. But there's something in you that lacks the awareness that's required to move beyond that adversity, to bust through that wall. It's a limiting belief, and by definition we're not aware of them. And if we are aware of. Then we have the choice to change it or not. But most people don't just sit around in their limiting beliefs, accepting them.

They're limiting us because we're not aware of them. They're in the blind spot, and that's what these conversations help so much do is uncover those because you eating that pizza roll was one of the greatest things that could have ever happened to you. Of course, massive lesson on, oh my gosh, what? Do I not realize my subconscious is controlling?

Yeah. Well then in that moment I was sitting there like this really just happened on day one. I was so excited. Yep. To try and do this. Pop the balloon. Yeah. . And then it's like, okay, so you failed today, right? You failed it? Yep. Just I could have just eaten the pizza rolls. My mom, my sister, everybody just said, yeah, just eat the pizza rolls.

It's okay. You failed. Oh, good point. Did you finish, like if you had to bite a cake, did you just finish the cake? Yeah. You might as well just eat. No, I, I did not eat any more pizza rolls. Wow. I went upstairs and was just in, in that moment of disappointment and just went to sleep to get to the next day.

Because the point of me doing this program is so I don't feel like crap eating pizza rolls makes me feel like crap. Mm. Even if it's a cheap meal and I'm doing great, it's still gonna make me feel bad. Right. So that's the point. I didn't eat any No, I'm, I'm proud of you for that cuz I, I was not home. I was traveling and, uh, that's a big deal to, to make that call on your own.

That's manhood or womanhood if it's a woman doing it. Right. So, so that's huge. Right. Limiting. It's massive. It's in control. Our, our subconscious is absolutely in control by the time we're 35 years old, which you have a little ways to go before then. By the time we're 35 years old, over 95% of our thoughts and behaviors, not our thoughts are behaviors.

Our actions on a daily basis, our unconscious to our thinking aware mind.

That is huge. The pizza roll is literally just the tip, scary, the tip of the iceberg about what's in control, and we all have this. Nobody is completely self-actualized and un and has no blind spots, no one, I don't care how well they perform or what their life looks like. We all got 'em. That's why we all need a coach no matter what.

I mean, if the greatest athletes in the world have coaches for different disciplines, for their nutrition, their mindset, the way they throw the ball, the way they hit the puck, the way they swing the bat, the way they throw the punch. Mm-hmm. , every one of us needs a coach, especially people who are married or have significantly important things in their life that they want to be successful.

So I think I got a little there. There was something there that I. That was in my mind about the blind spot thing and the limiting beliefs. Oh, I wanted to mention this because this is, this doesn't have to be all that complicated either. A Bel, I want you to think about the simplicity of this. A belief is simply a thought.

We keep thinking that's what a belief is. I don't care if it's about God or. Ford is better than Chevy or Chevy's, better than Chrysler. It doesn't matter what the belief is. It's a thought. We keep thinking. It's one of the key principles to transformation. If you want to change something in your life, change of belief, you have to form a new thought around that thing that you can buy into.

That is in sync with your core values, what you really want out of life,

and you need to form a new thought around that. And then you build that thought out and, and you build some substance to it. And then you keep thinking about that. Some people call that meditation. You can meditate on that. You, you just obsess with the thought. When someone finds a new boyfriend, new girlfriend, and, and they can't stop thinking about 'em all day long and they're obsessed with the.

they're developing a belief about that person until it changes. Mm-hmm. . So it's no different than anything else. You form a new thought and you repeat that thought. That's a massive thing. So, but here, here's, here's a big, a big deal about Yes. You're, you're changing, going into 75 hard, the pain becoming great enough.

To Cause the change is key, but you don't always need to go to the point where you, you're so sick of yourself that you can't stand it. And that's what the thing that makes you change. Yeah. It doesn't always require that level of pain. So you would not have done it anyway. Or, let me put it this way, you would not, we we're in a certain place in our reality.

Right. We're at a point. You were at a point in the. Just a certain point in your own reality, the condition of your life as it was not justifying, not making excuses, not making it better than it was, you were at a point of whatever that point was. You're at a point right now that's today is your reality.

Look at your life in this moment. This is your life. This is your reality. Tyler durden your vision for what you wanted, the. The destination where you wanted to go was higher. It's that a higher frequency, a higher vibration. Mm-hmm. , if you will. Right? Yeah. You had to become more to realize that reality. The new reality.

Yeah. That gap in between your current reality and where you want to go, where you imagine yourself being, that gap is where the pain occur. That gap produces the pain. If I have a mass, and it's not always hurtful pain. It's like if I have a dream of this podcast reaching thousands of people, which it does not currently do thousands of people, but my reality is a couple hundred, that gap is the.

It's, that's what produces the desire. If you don't have desire or you're struggling for motivation, your vision is not clear or you don't have one. If somebody's totally content and wants no growth, nothing to change in their life, they don't have a gap. Their reality in their. A line. Yeah, they're there.

Settle in for the long haul pal, cuz this is it. And it's possible to kinda stay that way forever. Even though stasis like maintaining is a myth that that actually can't happen. It's either a slow decline or an increase. So the key factor for you was knowing what you. The more you make that clear, the more you define that in your mind's eye, and visualize the details and the smells and the tastes and the people around you and what that looks like, your daily activity in that future, how it feels to look in the mirror and see your body in the condition that you wanna see it in.

The more clear that is, the more inspiration you will have, the less you will need motivation and the more discipline you will exercise on a daily basis. Yeah. Now I'm gonna relate that to a gym pump. When you're in the gym and you get a pump, bring it. I hope this is the, the lungs will love it. Yeah. . So, no, I just saw on Instagram, I dunno this guy's name, but he was explaining how.

When you're in the gym and you wanna get bigger, right? And you lift weights, your muscles filled with blood, that's what happens. So your muscles are appear bigger. They get bigger, so you get a pump. So when you see that pump, that's like looking at your future self. Mm-hmm.  in a way. Nice. So you see that pump and like you go to the gym to see that pump.

Oh, I wanna get that pump, you know? Ah. And then you see that pump and then it goes away and it's like, I want that again. Right. So he keeps striving for. And then say tomorrow hits, right? Obviously not that fast, but tomorrow hits. And you get that big, but then you're that big and you see the pump. And the pump is bigger than how big you are.

So you keep striving for tomorrow, but you'll never reach tomorrow cause it'll always be today. So you'll really never, you may never reach that, but you can always work towards it and you may never be happy or satisfy. , I guess that's not very positive, but it's ma just never being satisfied, but being happy with your progress, I guess.

No, I got your point. So a big part of 75 hard right. Is, is taking, taking the photos. Mm-hmm. . So for example, like the way I'm understanding you, correct me if I'm wrong, the pump that you saw literally today, right? Yeah. Or, or this week. Mm-hmm. . You have a picture of that pump? Yeah. You can print out that picture.

Attack it to your wall, put it on your desk, keep it in your truck, whatever. Keep it in your wallet pocket. You have a captured moment of that visual. That wasn't your actual physical reality. Yeah. In that moment. But it was a pump and it gave you the vision of what you did want. Yeah. And even though that will always continue to change on a daily basis, if you keep an eye on that picture, maybe a year or two from now, a year, you've built the muscle.

that your natural body without the pump Yeah. Will look like what the pump looked like a year ago. Mm-hmm.  basically is what you're saying. Yeah. In in this analogy. Yes. That's pretty good. Yeah, and I think that can work with goal setting too. You just, you put something that you want up on a board picture of a car or a, a different job or a raise or a business that you wanna start something, right?

Yep. You have that up on your board a couple years pass, you have that, or you surpassed it and then you're like, what the heck do I do? You just keep putting different things up there that you want. Once you reach them, you make new goals. I think that goal setting is very similar to the pump. Yeah. You grew up in my home,

You've seen pictures throughout the years, so, you know, I was, I was born and raised in and around Detroit, but you, you would, as a, as a child growing up, you would see in the kitchen, Pictures of the current reality that we had, and let's say it was February with eight inches of snow on the ground and it was 17 degrees outside.

And in the same moment I would have my buddy down in Miami. I remember this, take a picture the way that I did in front of, I took a picture in front of my truck. He'd take a picture or out my front door and he'd take a picture outside his front door at the same literal moment. Mine was in the teens or in the twenties.

My world was covered in snow and governed by gray in the sky, the blanket of gray that the Midwest has. Yeah. And he did the same exact picture and view out his front door. And it's 83 degrees and blue sky. Right. And I printed those out and I would do this a couple, I've done this a couple times in multiple ways.

I printed those out on one sheet of paper, put 'em in plastic.  and literally tape that or, or put that up on the mag on the fridge or whatever, so I could see the visual. Yeah. Because I need to know where I am and I need to know where I want to go. Mm-hmm.  and having that desire, that crystal clear visualization because I'll, we're gonna teach more on, on, on the concept of visualization later and, and training your mind to formulate the vision of your dreams and desire.

So that your body carries out the actions on a daily basis and does all these things to where one day your reality manifests the vision. Yeah, and, and this has happened in so many portions of my life. The office that were, the studio, the office that we're sitting in right now. Is a physical, tangible manifestation of a vision that was only in my imagination for a few years, and that's literally Tampa Bay.

Yes. Over my shoulder. Yeah. You said you wanted a office that overlooking the bay, and you literally have that right now. Yep. That wasn't terribly far from home. Mm-hmm.

So what were you gonna say? No, I was just gonna say, this goes with everything, but just what I'm doing right now is trying to learn about, I am learning about real estate investing. I had not met one person ever that was into this and my whole life. Yep. And then a month ago, . I started learning, listening the podcast, reading a couple books, and I've met so many people into real estate investing.

Yeah. At this point. Yep. And that wasn't happening before. So basically you're attracting into your life the things that you're focusing on. Yeah, I'm creating opportunities without even really, I guess, knowing it. Yep. How do you think that? What's the word? What is the word? I know it well. It's a phrase, it's a system in our mind.

Yes. Right. It's a system in our mind. Mm-hmm. . The r a s. Yes. What is it? Um, I dunno. Reticular activating system. The reticular activating system. Yes. Yes. We see what we're focused on. Mm-hmm. , what we're, we see what we're thinking about most. Yeah. The easiest way that everybody understands this is when you get hot for a new vehicle, a certain type of vehicle.

Oh yeah. Even if it's a motorcycle or whatever, you all of a sudden start seeing it everywhere on the road. Right. I want, I want a black bmw. And all of a sudden, everywhere you go, you're starting to notice. Yeah, that's the difference. You're starting to notice all the black BMWs on the road and what do you tell yourself?

I knew it. It was a sign. I'm supposed to get it. Yep. What a coincidence. What a coincidence. Look at there meant to be . I'm gonna go buy that right now, then. Yeah. And, and, and sure. Maybe it is. I believe in the heart being right and having your priorities in line. But then yes, go get it. But it's not that it's all of a sudden they're everywhere.

it's all of a sudden your focus is there and that's what you notice. So when we look at the identity pathway, you're noticing comes from your thoughts and your focus and your focus comes from your conditioning. And if you don't like what you're focused on, you can overcome the conditioning of your upbringing.

You can enhance, in your case, the conditioning of your upbringing cuz you were not given the greatest conditioning in the world because I wasn't the greatest man in the world ever. Yeah. Who is, there's always room to improve. That's not to say that I was bad, but I have my own limitations and I'm sure a handful of those are inside you.

Yeah. And. But when you stay open to the idea that you have limitations, you can then begin improving them, eliminating them, and replacing them. And then you end up putting your mind on things that you believe are possibilities, and your focus goes there. Your particular activating system goes into place.

You notice the things that draw it into your life, and one day, rather than being in a cold, dark, bleak place year round, you're doing podcast. In the land of paradise. Yeah. It's sitting in your hot tub one day, sitting in your hot tub to start the day, right? Mm-hmm. , Hey man, those, you gotta do the cold and you gotta do the hot.

Yeah. And, and this week I need a little bit of the hot for the body and it's a beautiful thing. So, you know, what, what would you say, what would you offer somebody as we're heading out on this one to You're frustrated. You know, there's certain aspects of fear that are limiting you. If not, you would've already gone for it.

If you're willing to face that truth and, you know, faith-driven, family-oriented truth seekers that are, that are seeking revolutionary freedom in their life to break through frustration are those kind of people. They're not gonna lay down and be overtaken by the fear and the frustration and, and settle in and become a cynic and get jealous and trash the people on the boat.

Yeah. What would you offer from what you've learned about your physical state from this summer and where you are right now, even after a couple false starts, failure starts mm-hmm.  with, uh, 75 hard and what you're doing. What, what's, what's the thing you have to do to, that you have to offer in terms of that, whether it's limita, limiting beliefs, uh, how to get yourself moving or overcoming the fear to, to actually pull the trigger on some things.

Well, I mean, first I would look. Why you have that fear, why, where the limiting belief is coming from? Hmm. I guess, right? Like for me, or if you're going against your purpose, right? Hmm. Then so you're saying like you want this certain thing up here. , but your daily actions aren't consistent with demonstrating that you want it.

Your actions are not congruent. They're betraying you. Yeah. They're not congruent with, with your calling. Okay. What could be your calling? Okay, so, which it's working out, isn't your calling? Well, no, let's just not even get so deep. Let's just say you got a goal, right? Mm-hmm.  and your actions are not congruent with producing that goal.

Yeah. Like your brother. Wants to be a certain kind of baseball player. Now he's very young, still just turned 12, so we can't hold all of it against him. But if he's 16 and he's midway through high school and says, I wanna be a professional baseball player, but doesn't work out daily, doesn't do, doesn't swing the bat a hundred or a thousand times a day in batting practice, he's not doing the things required to achieve that.

So, okay. Yeah. So that's what you're saying, right. Okay. So super, super simple example, then. If you wanna read more, you've always, you know, just wanted to read more, but you're scared to read, you're scared to pick up a book and scared to spend the time. Mm-hmm. , then maybe, maybe you don't have a lot of time.

So throw in five, 10 pages every single day and just commit to that little portion every single day. Even if it's just 20 minutes of breathing. Okay. Just commit to something. Okay. Every single day. Yep. Had you read a book that wasn't assigned to you? Well, well tell, tell you tell you. Were not a reader. No.

I almost hated reading. Hated it. Yes. And I was concerned for you that in 75 hard that that was gonna be an issue because of how much you've have despised the idea of reading. Well, I wouldn't have told you that. . Why would I install limiting belief? Mm-hmm.  parents, most parents are really good at installing limiting beliefs on their kids.

Yeah. Yeah. I didn't really think much of it. It was just. I hope this works out. You know, I hope this can motivate me cuz I didn't wanna, okay, so the principle you're saying is you have this idea, this vision, this goal, this thing that you wanna change mm-hmm. , but the fear of whatever, you're not enough. I'm no good at, I don't like it.

I hate it. Yeah. Start small. Yeah, maybe that's true. Start small. Yeah. And it might be true. Exactly. So what? Yeah, start small and just do consistent daily tasks or things that align with. And just see where that goes. Yep. I think even for the reading, I wanna offer even a little bit more encouragement to the person.

Let's say that they hate reading or anything else. If it's a real hatred or something like that, a real aversion to the, the, the thing, the activity. I wouldn't even worry about five or 10 pages. I'd start and say, can I open this book and read a page? Yeah. Can I open this book and read the first paragraph?

Literally, grant used to call it like this. And when you're closing a deal in sales, rather than give all the big terms of the deal, you reduce it to the ridiculous. I like that phrase and I got it from him. And it's always stuck. Reduce it to the ridiculous. Instead of saying, this thing's gonna cost you $500, Bob, you, you break it down over a three year period and say it's gonna cost you 42 cents a.

right? Like, ugh. Yeah. Right? Mm-hmm. . So, and the math is odd. It doesn't even matter. You get the idea. I do. You reduce it to the ridiculous, so it seems beyond easy. Of course, I can open a page and read a paragraph. Yeah. Right. And then that, that, that can grow when you, as long as you do it consistently, I promise you.

If you don't hate, if you hate reading and you open a book and you read one page, pick a simple. . Yeah, but like a good one for 75 hard. I pick a simple book. Yes. You start off simple, bigger letters, bigger spacing, no joke. Yeah. And you read a page if you keep doing that, what did I tell you? If you keep doing that, the desire will come about.

You'll begin. Like, I wanna read more. I already feel that way. If you, yep. If you go into the gym and you hate working out because of how it makes you feel, don't go to a trainer that's gonna break you off. Go into the gym and do a few reps. But do the few reps every single day, one or two days off a week, like every day.

I guarantee if you walk around your block, but you walk around the block every day, that's going to lead to a desire to walk another block eventually. Yeah. And that could turn into a marathon. After 12 or 18 months. Mm-hmm. , it absolutely could start small, reduce it to the ridiculous, and do it consistently and watch what happens.

I enjoy the time gab. This is fun. Me too. I think there's some real good nuggets in here that, uh, can help people experience revolutionary freedom in their life, which you are absolutely in the process of. Because remember, revolutionary freedom is not a destination, it's a lifestyle. Mm. It's a process and progress is the key.

If you want to stop the frustration of the same cycles keeping you stuck. And finally, level up. Let's have a quick conversation and see if we might be a fit for each other.